The Tan Plan

OK lets' face it - who doesn't want that 'healthy' bronzed glow all year round - whether we've been told it's healthy or not. As our wedding is in June I won't be walking down the aisle with a season of sunshine behind me. My make up artist has tried to steer me towards gradual tanners rather than spray on or solarium and I've got the time to perfect my tan if I start experimenting now.

First thing - need to clear up those t-shirt lines from our Williamstown ride a few weeks ago. Well I don't just have hours to laze around in the courtyard, however tempting that might sound. No there must be a way to get it done during my normal routine. I know! My ride to work is 40 minutes - I'll slip on a boob tube and slap on some Reef Coconut Oil when I leave the office and catch some rays on the way home! Just got to remember to sunscreen the tanned bits or I'll never get anywhere.

As far as those tanning moisturisers go, it's  been a bit hit and miss, here's my thoughts so far (the numbers are based on a scale of 1-5, 1 being unsatisfactory)

Sally Hansen Airbrush Legs
Ha Ha Ha! Not even bothering with a review

Johnson's Holiday Skin
Cost <$10
Smell 1
Streaking 1
Verdict - No way. Anyone want the rest of the bottle?

Dove Summer Glow
Cost <$10
Smell 2 - slightly less unbearable than Johnson's
Streaking 1 - I know so many of you swear but Dove but it doens't matter how evenly I apply it, or how well I exfoliated, it. still. streaks.
Verdict - I really persisted with this one but it's not for me - half a bottle going cheap!

St Tropez Everyday Gradual Tan
Cost $30
Smell 5 - Love this! It's not offensive at any point, in fact when it's soaked in, I catch a whiff and wonder what perfume I'm wearing!
Streaking 5 - hasn't happened yet. The instructions say that it doens't matter if you go over one area twice, just don't miss any spots altogether.
Verdict - a bit thicker to apply but it still doens't take long to soak in. It's the winner by far so far.

Oh and by the way, isn't it annoying when you've got your colour looking good but a trip to the waxer strips you back to lily white! So I'm also going to try out a fake tan before the day. I know there are some that rub off around the top of the dress bodice quite easily, leaving not only brown stains on the dress, but white patches under your arms. Enter Tuscan Tan, I've heard it's one of the spray-ons out there and luckily enough, it's the tan of choice for my local beauty haunt. I'll do some rigourous testing on it in a month or so.

It's arrived!

Got an exciting call from Brides of Melbourne yesterday, my wedding dress has arrived in their store! When I booked for my fitting in March, I hadn't realised that it might arrive before Wendy. Now I get to wonder about it waiting for me in the storeroom for 4 more Fridays.

This week I also received my very beautiful custom earrings from Lizardi Bridal from Etsy. I'd finally come across a pair that I liked and after sending a few piccies of the dress through to Roxy we came up with the perfect pair! I'll get a photo up over the weekend.

Oh, funny thing - Trav finally had his first wedding dream the other day - it was finally his turn to not have the right outfit and be an hour late for the ceremony!

Guest Requests

We're starting to received our RSVPS and I'm so glad we included a song request, it's really exciting to see what people are picking. One RSVP even came without a name on it - I think someone was putting too much thought into the songs - we recognised the musical taste though and were able to narrow it down.

So far our hitlist includes:


Rock Lobster - B52's
I bet you look good on the dance floor - Arctic Monkeys
Nutbush - Tina Turner (knew that wouldn't take long to show up!)
Brown Eyed Girl - Van Morrison

The Problem of Choice

Well I think I've dug myself a nice hole now! It sounds like our RSVP's might be a little slow in coming as everyone is trying to pick 2 songs for the dancefloor! 

What a terrible problem to have - I can't wait to see the list of songs we have in May!

The Sulla Tips

Early in our Engagement it was easy to become overwhelmed by the amount of things to decide on and unknown factors that might spring up, especially with such a long planning period. One day while browsing The Knot I came across the Sulla Tips, which I think should be mandatory reading for all brides at the beginning of their exciting journey.

When I read this for the first time, I found that I could relate to a lot of the ideas, and although some won't like the idea of 'rules', I'm sure most would agree that there are many simple suggestions put forward to help remind us of what it's all really about, afterall - all you need to get married is two willing partners, one licensed officiant and 2 witnesses. Enjoy...

The Sulla Tips:

Straightforward Rules for Keeping Wedding Planning From Sapping Your Common Sense, Squashing Your Sense of Humor, and Sucking the Joy Out of One of Life's Most Joyous Occasions

By Jennifer Mendelsohn 

A little background on the Sulla Tips... The Sulla Tips grew out of my experiences as a regular on the Knot's message boards while planning my 2002 wedding. Each day, the boards were littered with posts from brides beside themselves over wedding planning issues that didn’t even have to cross their radar screens in the first place, from the woman who needed confirmation that it was ok that her wedding colors didn't include her favorite colors, to the one who worried whether serving New York strip at a rehearsal dinner is "somehow wrong?" ("I'm pathetic for worrying about this, but I'm needing your opinions," confessed the strip steak bride.) There was the bride who was seriously concerned about whether she could still order white chair covers if she wore an ivory dress (the horror! The horror!) and the one who asked in all earnestness whether her cake needed to match the interior or exterior of her reception site.

 There's such an overload of wedding info out there - they don't call it the "wedding-industrial complex" for nothing! -- that it's easy for women who've been prepped since childhood for "the most important day of their lives" to worry and obsess about the trappings...moreso than they obsess about what it actually means to get married. Bridal tunnel vision, it seemed, had spiraled completely out of control...and so, the Sulla Tips were born. And here they are.

 My best piece of wedding advice?
 

Its a party, its a party, its a party. 

Don’t let your obsession with making sure you do and buy all the stuff you’re “supposed” to suck the joy out of your very joyous day. Just let it roll and make sure that your wedding is, at heart, a celebration, not a staged production. We’ve somehow gotten so crazed about all the stuff we’re supposed to do and have and buy, that IMO, too many weddings have lost that carefree sense of celebration that the old-fashioned, simple VFW Hall events had in spades.

In other words, it’s all about feeling, not stuff. (One of my favorite weddings ever was in a backyard and planned in about three months.) If you want to make your wedding better, make it richer in feeling, not in stuff. 

 Let me say that again.

 If you want to make your wedding better, make it richer in feeling, not stuff.

Too much “stuff” can actually sometimes bog it down and make it less enjoyable and meaningful. Plus, you’re front-loading your day with anxiety if you must have every single little thing controlled and coordinated and (God I hate this word) perfect. You really don’t have to obsess about matching the bridesmaids’ earrings and hose, or coordinating the groomsmen’s ties to the frosting and the bow on the flower girl’s dress. Do not give so much as a second thought to your uneven bridal party (this isn’t a military parade, it’s a wedding!) and think about throwing a great, memorable party to mark your marriage. 

 Why? Because it’s really not about whether the sash on your dress matches the favor boxes and the ink on the save-the-date cards, or about finding the absolute perfect cake serving set to match your theme. (We didn’t even have favors, STDs, a serving set or a theme.) It’s about the look on the face of the woman wearing the sash dress and cutting the cake, even if she uses a rusty old knife someone found in the back. As my caterer likes to say, your bridesmaids’ dresses do not need to match the linens unless you plan to use the bridesmaids as centerpieces. (Hey! It could cut your flower bill.) 

 Ponder this for a second: why are second weddings almost always so much fun? Because their metaphorical hearts are in the right place. Second-time brides seem much more willing to dispense with all the wedding-y “stuff” and focus instead on throwing a meaningful, relaxed celebration - a party. So try to plan your wedding like it’s your second...even if it’s really your first. 

 I’m not saying it’s intrinsically wrong to match everything and obsess about the details if that really makes you happy and that’s a natural instinct for you. But it seems like I’ve seen far too many brides make themselves miserable trying to match everything and make all the little details perfect because they think they’re supposed to, like the Knottie who was worried about what color limo would look best against her dress. (Puh-leeze!) Or they think that the skies will rain fire and their wedding will suck if they don’t get crazed about having the font on the save-the-dates match the cocktail napkins. It won’t. If it’s something you don’t care about, but you’re all uptight that you’re supposed to care about it, or worried that you see other people caring about, it’s probably not something you should care about.

 I’m also most definitely NOT saying that elaborate, fancy weddings can’t be wonderful ones. (As a matter of fact, I had a pretty elaborate, fancy wedding.) But if you’re going into it thinking that it’s the fancy, elaborate stuff that’s going to make the wedding a good one, think again. Wonderful weddings are the ones that feel wonderful, regardless of how much or how little “stuff” is involved. It’s a question of emphasis: if you make sure you’re aiming for a great feeling wedding first and foremost, you can have as much or as little matchy matchy “stuff” as you want. But the problem I see so many brides encountering is that they seem to have their priorities backwards, and they’re investing the “stuff” and the details with way too much importance, thinking that the only way to have a great wedding is to make sure all the “stuff” is perfect. But they end up shooting themselves in the foot because the obsession with detail becomes so overwhelming and anxiety-producing (totally understandable, btw, given what we all see in the magazines and tv shows and on the web) that they get tunnel vision and completely forget the joyous celebration that this is all supposed to be about. It’s a party, it’s a party, it’s a party!
 

My brother, a very well-regarded wedding photographer, very smartly says there are only two kinds of wedding, regardless of size, budget, location, style, or anything else: fun weddings and stressful weddings. Aim to make yours fun and the rest will fall into place. 
 

In short, nobody ever leaves a wedding saying, “Yeah, it was soooo great! The mother of the groom’s dress was the SAME EXACT SHADE as the bridesmaids’ shoes and the writing on the matchbooks!” People leave a wedding thinking it was great because it felt great - because the bride and groom were in love and happy, and the party felt appropriately joyous, even if there’s not a single Martha Stewart-ish detail anywhere in sight.
 

MORE SULLA TIPS.....

Psst! You’re in charge. Not the wedding industry. I’m so tired of brides asking “Can I do this?” or “Would it be ok if I did this?” When it comes to your wedding, YOU are the ultimate authority, not Martha Stewart, and not a chorus of anonymous women on the Internet. Of course there are protocols to help guide you, but that’s all they are: guidelines, not legal doctrines written in stone. Don’t be afraid to deviate from them and follow your gut. The only way to make your wedding truly memorable is to make it truly yours, not to make it a carbon copy of every other bride’s.

While we’re at it, this also means that asking “Is [insert wedding detail here] worth it?” is kind of a meaningless question. We all have a budget, and you have to assign priorities within that budget. If having the most fabulous Vera Wang or Monique L’Huillier gown is the most important thing in the world to you, and you are willing to serve your guests on paper plates to achieve it, then it’s worth it to you. (Of course, I can’t really condone that one in good conscience, but I’m just trying to make a point!) Maybe having the world’s best live band is more important to you, and it means you can’t have a couture gown. Whatever the specifics, I see this getting asked all the time on the Knot and the answer is that there are no absolute values assigned here: wearing a couture gown (or having a live band, or engraved invitations, or a video, or whatever) is “worth” something very different to every woman, so no one can make those decisions for you. Sure, get some input. Find out how others made these choices. But know that ultimately, you need to trust your gut and your budget. 

Don’t let the reception planning overshadow your ceremony planning. It’s really what the day is about. And besides, nothing puts guests in a better mood to party than witnessing a meaningful and personal wedding ceremony. I remember a very very fancy over- the top country club wedding that must have cost $100,000. But they had an incredibly mediocre, “insert-bride -and-groom here” kind of ceremony. And to be honest, when I think back on that wedding, what I remember most is the crappy ceremony, not the vodka shot bar. 

This is tough, but I believe that money does not equal control. Just because your parents (or whoever) are paying, does not give them the right to steamroll you. That means that if you want a small intimate wedding, your mother doesn’t get to invite 100 people just because she pays for it. Your husband’s grandfather does not get to have a polka band just because he pays for it. (By the same token, if your mother is paying, and she wants an all broccoli menu, that’s her right, right?) Think about if you were going to throw your parents an anniversary party. And you picked the menu that YOU liked, the flowers and music YOU liked and a guest list of all YOUR friends. You’d be a pretty thoughtless host, right? Well, though it’s controversial, I believe the same is true of hosting a wedding. Your parents already were the bride and groom...now it’s your turn. They don’t get to go again.

Remember that it’s all good. Wedding stress is undeniably real. There’s no getting around it. Believe me, I’ve been there. Weddings hit many uncomfortable hot button issues, and we’ve all had moments where we just want to kick it all. But you’re planning a wedding, not a funeral or a fundraiser to help your dying child get a new heart. Which is to say that it’s really hard to feel sorry for someone overwhelmed by planning a wedding, and there’s nothing, and I mean nothing, more unattractive than a bride who whines her way through what should be an exciting, happy process. Because in truth you’ve done the truly stressful part already: you’ve survived the dating scene and found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. And you’re stressing over planning the ceremony that will bond the two of you and the wonderful party that will celebrate that bond and perhaps even the fabulous vacation you get to go on when it’s all over? Poor you. I don’t want to get too maudlin here, but I just had a 35 year old friend with three little boys under the age of five die of cancer. His wife’s website about their daily battle with his illness and her attempts to keep it together for the boys should be required reading for every bride who’s complaining about how stressful it is to plan her wedding. Sometimes it helps to take a step back and remember why you’re a wreck: You’re planning a joyous occasion, and if you’re letting it make you miserable, you’re doing something wrong.

Guests only see what’s there, not what isn’t. I actually learned this one on the Knot when planning my own wedding in 2002. People will never know that you didn’t choose the most expensive entrée, or that you opted for the trio instead of the quartet to save money. I desperately wanted the ridiculously expensive Chiavari chairs for my wedding, but ultimately realized I couldn’t stretch our budget to fit them. And I stressed and stressed over it. We had plain white wooden folding chairs instead. Do you think anyone came away from my wedding saying, “It was nice, but she should have had better chairs”? If you focus on making the most of what is there, nobody will ever be the wiser about the options you turned down.

You’re having a wedding, not a photo shoot. A wedding is an event involving real people that will also be photographed and often, filmed. You’re not staging an event just to be photographed and filmed or costuming actors to play a role. Which means that you really shouldn’t stress about whether your father-in-law’s ivory tie will clash with the bridesmaids’ champagne dresses in the pictures or if your fiancé’s shirt needs to be the exact same shade as your dress, unless you have a Raggedy Ann and Andy theme in play. You’re having a party for people to enjoy, not a photo shoot with models. Make it your priority to focus on doing whatever it takes to make the actual event wonderful, and the pictures will reflect that. If you find yourself asking, “But how will it look in pictures?”, think again. “Is this what I want for my wedding?” is a much healthier question. In other words, aim for a great wedding, not just a perfect-looking record of one. Besides, you should banish the word “perfect” from your wedding vocabulary unless you’re talking about your spouse. (And a special footnote about the eternal white shirt/ivory dress “crisis”: a man in a crisp white tuxedo shirt can never, ever be out of style, no matter what the woman standing next to him is wearing.)

I think part of the “photo shoot syndrome” is that too many brides think their wedding will take place in a fantasy zone that bears no connection to their day-to-day lives. You think you will arrive, butterfly and princess-like, on the wedding morning, to discover your friends and family will somehow be more attractive and caring, your own manners will be better, and all normal human impulses will be stifled. You think you will be whisked from moment to moment on a sugarcoated cloud of good will and tulle, as if the wedding zone exists outside the space/time continuum. Annoying Aunt Edna will miraculously be transformed into your cool best friend and mosquitoes won’t bite and you won’t sweat when you dance or snort when you laugh.

As special and important and meaningful and remarkable and splendid as your wedding day is, it’s really just a day of your life, the one after the day before and before the day after. I would recommend you don’t have expectations that it will be this fantasy perfect day that has nothing to do with your real life. It’s this fantasy expectation that can breed bridezillas who won’t allow pregnant bridesmaids or uneven bridal parties or (I am not making this up) a bridesmaid in a wheelchair because of how it might look. I think the best weddings are those that reflect, respect and celebrate the reality of your life, even when that reality is a little imperfect, not those that feel completely removed from reality, like you’re watching a perfectly scripted movie. You’re a bride, and that’s very special, but you’re not a Stepford wife or a Kabuki performer. Keep it real. 

 Having now survived the entire wedding planning process, culminating in a marriage that has lasted almost seven years, (so we must have done something right), I also now heartily recommend that you don’t get stressed out about what anyone else but you is going to wear to your wedding. That means no dictating your mother-in-law’s dress, or picking shoes or hairdos for the bridesmaids unless they’re asking you to. Whoever it is you’re worried about could wear a Hefty bag and a lampshade and I promise you won’t notice because you will be so blissfully happy that day. All the people involved in your wedding are presumably adults and what they wear reflects on no one but them. It’s just not worth it, because the net result (bridesmaids in matching shoes, for instance) will really not make your wedding more enjoyable or memorable or special, but bridesmaids who are happy and relaxed and feel good about what they’re wearing really will. Just my .02. I guess I understand the matching bridesmaid dress is very important to some people, but I have a general rule of thumb that no one over the age of, say, six, should have their footwear chosen for them.  

Let’s talk about photography. If your preference is for that very natural photojournalistic look, I urge you to use a REAL photojournalist, not a wedding photographer who shoots a few candids and calls that a “photojournalistic style.” How can you tell? Real photojournalists will have worked for wire services, newspapers or magazines. If you don’t hire someone with that kind of background, chances are your wedding pictures will not look that way because they haven’t been trained to shoot that way. When people ask what the difference is, I say that traditional photographers create perfect “moments” - not necessarily ones that actually happened—and capture those: they fan out the bride’s dress in a perfect half circle. They stop the bride and groom in the middle of the cake cutting and tell them when to smile. They have the mother and father stand a few steps away and gaze lovingly. In general, they direct the action. Photojournalists are trained to shoot news, not set up shots ...they capture the day as it unfolds, good, bad, ugly, (well hopefully not too ugly), but most of all...spontaneous. War photographers don’t head into battle with a “must take” list, and neither do sports photographers going to cover a game. They just shoot what they see. So you won’t get a parents-gazing-lovingly shot from a photojournalist unless that moment actually happened.

This doesn’t mean that photojournalists won’t take some beautiful posed portraits for you, or won’t get the obligatory picture of you with your parents. But their posed portraits just tend to be much more natural looking, and they will probably be less willing to do the 900 different family constellation photos. (Here’s Bob and Jane with Mom. Here’s Bob and Jane with Mom and Dad. Here’s Mom and Dad with just Jane....) Photojournalists tell the story of your wedding in pictures. Period. (And for the record, that has nothing to do with pictures of your shoes!) I also laugh when people say photojournalism is just a “trend”; tell that to Civil War photographer Matthew Brady, whose battlefield photos can still rip your heart out 140 years later. Timeless, beautiful photography will never, ever be out of style. Trite, contrived pictures will look dated almost immediately.

While we’re on the subject of photography, nothing irks me more than people who say they want really unique pictures...and then ask other brides to post theirs so they can copy poses. The only way to have really unique pictures is to have pictures that capture what happened at your wedding and your wedding only. And once again, after many years as a regular on the Knot message boards, I don’t think I’ve EVER seen a bride say her favorite wedding photo was one she copied from someone else’s album. They’re almost always something that captured a unique moment that could never be replicated. Please, please, please, just stop with the “must take” picture lists - especially when so many of the pictures you’re trying to copy are candids and therefore really un-duplicatable. It’s almost embarrassing to think your wedding album is going to be filled with pictures you “borrowed,” copying what happened naturally at someone else’s wedding. What should you do instead? Hire a photographer you trust who’ll have creative, imaginative ideas of their own. I beg you. It’s fine if you want to show your photographer a few pictures you like to give them an idea of the style that appeals to you, but replicating them exactly? Yikes. If you’re somebody who wants and needs all the “traditional” poses, by all means, use that checklist they give you on the Knot, but this whole idea of recreating creative poses is, to me, (as someone whose completely candid photos have appeared in others’ bios on the must-take list) bordering on, um, creepy.

I’ve also heard it (incorrectly, IMO) said that the bride and groom somehow need to be camera savvy to be properly captured by a photojournalist, or that not every wedding is a good bet for photojournalism. I heartily disagree. Do you think before publications send photographers out to shoot a feature story, they first investigate whether the subject is “camera-savvy?” It doesn’t matter who you are or where your wedding is or what you look like: every single wedding - a sacred event where two people in love commit their lives to each other in the presence of friends and family and (often) God—is going to be filled with countless beautiful, inimitable, heartwrenching moments ripe for capturing, as long as you have a photographer who knows how to do it. You shouldn’t need to “borrow” from anyone.

Sulla’s Wedding Day advice

After all my months and months of planning everything in meticulous detail, one warm summer morning I woke up and it was actually my wedding day. I had done everything I could to make sure it went off as seamlessly as possible. Now all I could do was actually enjoy the fruit of all my labor. The day was going to unfold as it unfolded and it was basically out of my hands at that point. The only thing I could control was making sure I got down the aisle, said the vows, and got the ring on my finger.

My take on the wedding day? You won’t remember 20 years from now if they messed up and served broccoli quiche instead of spinach, but you will remember it if you freak out over it and cause a scene and hide in the bathroom in tears over the quiche, the wrong flowers, the wrong chairs, the missing organist, or whatever it is. Just let it all roll off your back that day, no matter what. You can deal with suing your baker when you come home from the honeymoon, but nothing kills a party more than watching the guest of honor be demanding and/or stressed, barking orders and snapping at everyone. (Think of some of those Bridezillas from the Fox show. Shudder. Shudder.) Guests take their cue from you, and you should be the happiest guest of all.

In other words, you set the tone of your own wedding and that IS something you can control, even if every single one of your vendors flakes out on you. Which won’t happen, by the way. The wedding isn’t in the flowers or the linens or the cake or the DJ. It’s in the feeling. So even if none of the “stuff” is right, it can still be the best wedding ever.

Just in case, DO assign someone to deal with snafus. Under no circumstances should you be involved with figuring out why the hors d’oeuvres are late coming out or the cake has a bash in it. You should do nothing but laugh and drink and dance because you just got married, which should make you happy regardless of what kind of flowers are on the tables or what color the rosettes on the cake are. I’m not saying you have to be superwoman and you won’t be disappointed or shaken if things go wrong, but you have to deal with them appropriately. Which means AFTER your wedding. You’ll never get that day back, so why ruin it pouting and complaining? I’ll confess that I got a little bit upset when I realized that the light-strewn trees I had paid extra for as a ceremony backdrop had been put all around the room instead, and our ceremony backdrop was going to be an ugly screen that my brother had specifically told me I should cover. But when I began to make a little fuss about it, I could see the unflattering way people were looking at me, and I could tell I was becoming that bridezilla I swore I wouldn’t be. I immediately backed off. What-ever with the trees! Were they there? Were they not? I couldn’t even tell you. Look in my bio and tell me if my day was ruined by the placement of the trees.

You know what else happened at my (August) wedding? The air-conditioning wasn’t working in the cocktail hour room. What was I going to do about it? I don’t know how to fix air conditioning. (Besides, I was a little dressed up to doing hard labor.) I knew the venue was trying to fix it, and making a big thing out of it wasn’t going to get it fixed any faster or better. None of my guests was going to assume that I was somehow responsible for the broken air conditioning. So I just pretended it didn’t happen. The guests were, well, probably a little warm. But they didn’t complain to me. And they didn’t form a posse to find the bride who had allowed this Terrible Thing to Mar Her Perfect Wedding. Everyone had a great time because they were celebrating the fact that my husband and I had just married each other, a fact whose worthiness of celebration was not dependent on whether they were in an air conditioned room, or anything else for that matter.  I have mentioned this fact to several guests and I swear that not one of them actually remembered that the AC wasn’t working. Now had I made a big deal and confronted the caterers angrily or run off to a private room in tears, I’m sure they would have remembered that.

Here’s what one Knot bride had to say about her wedding. I saved it because I thought it was such an important lesson. “The only thing I regret [about my wedding] is not being able to enjoy myself,” she wrote. “I was TOO worried. TOO stressed. TOO everything. I pretty much was a nervous wreck and didn’t enjoy my party.  Everyone told me it was the best one they ever been to but I was too stressed to enjoy it.” Could there possibly be a worse ending to the months and months of planning? Don’t let it happen to you.

My take is that you’re allowed to be particular - but not neurotic -- about as many wedding details as you want throughout the planning process. It’s a big job and not one to be taken lightly. But the morning of your wedding, as soon as you open your eyes, you must let it all go. Stop. Basta. Enough. You’re there. You made it. Have fun. As long as you end up married to the right guy, the day was a success. Everything else is just details...Got it? 

For those who came to this link independent of my knot bio and want to see pictures of my wedding or read some other wedding-related articles I’ve written, the link is

http://community.theknot.com/cs/ks/user/page.aspx?username=Sulla

Our first RSVP!!

I promise I won't be posting each and everytime we receive another RSVP - but we did get our first one yesterday from my Aunt and Uncle! We've now got a little box on the hutch all ready to collect the others.
We've (well I've) also instigated Wedding Wednesday. As June gets closer there are more and more little things to think of so this will be the day each week when Trav and I can look at our lists and make some decisions, I think it's the perfect balance to save him from hearing about random wedding things constantly and help keep myself sane too.

Mister Postman, look and see

Yay! Our invites were posted on Wednesday and most of our VIC guests received a suprise when they got home from work on Friday. The Queenslanders received theirs yesterday and I even got a couple of calls and texts letting me know. 

Now we just wait for those RSVP's to roll in... waiting ... waiting ... waiting... well the cut-off is 1st May so I guess we'll be waiting a while.

In other news JetStar have worked their magic again, changing our flights. Luckily ours was just moved to earlier that morning, not the following day like some others on the same flight. They did this to us last year when they cut our holiday a day short - apparently around this time of year they get shuffled around in the airport and flights from 1st April onwards are subject to change. This happens every six months but has never happened to us on Virgin Blue. Glad we haven't booked our return flights yet...

I love mail!

Our invitations arrived yesterday! The printing is gorgeous and all other projects have been flung aside so that we can prepare these for posting! I was practicing my very best handwriting for the names on the invite. Unfortunately it looks like we won’t have room for the cute little wedding bells stamp I purchased- yet another thing to put on eBay after June! The envelopes are stamped and labeled, RSVP’s are stamped and  the letters are merged and printed, ready to go. I’ll continue naming the invitations this evening then will put everything in envelopes so that when the Telegram postcards arrive next week we’ll just pop one into each envelope ready for posting!

We’ve kept a pretty good spreadsheet of names and addresses and I must have looked at it and checked it a hundred times, but now that we’re getting ready to post everything I can’t help worrying that I’ve still missed a detail - spelling error? New address? That must just be paranoid bride behavior!

I also received some spare fabric from my dress which will be made into the ring cushion – that will be embroidered in the next few days then Marian & Susan will take care of the rest. It was a very exciting mail day!

With a little help from my friends…

What’s a celebration if you can’t share it? And share the planning too of course! We’re drawing on the talents of many friends for our big day – this is just who we’ve rounded up so far,


Deborah – our close friend will be officiating the ceremony
Andrea – Louise’s sister is making our beautiful wedding cake
Bruno & Toni – Bezzo’s friends in PD are offering our guests a fantastic accommodation deal at Coral Sea Villas
Angela – Trav’s cousin is calligraphing the placecards for us
Marian & Susan – are handmaking our ring cushion

Sand Ceremony

Being the sentimental type, early in our engagement I put the call out for sand to be collected from our hometowns - Geraldton WA for me and Christies Beach SA (yeah I know - meant to be right!?) for Trav.

The sand has since found its way to our place and we'll be using it for the sand ceremony. Then began the search for an appropriate vessel to pour the sand into. There are 'kits' available online none of which we liked the looks of and I started considering using an antique cut crystal decanter or bottle like we have for holiday mementos in the past. 

I usually like something to have an element of usefulness as well as beauty so am trying to avoid another 'dust collector'.

I knew there must be alternatives so I threw a few key words into Google and here's what I found:

Hourglass - fill it with your own then seal the lid! Absolutely stunning idea but a bit pricey for us

 

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Shadowbox - Yes! This is it! It's useful and beautiful! The one in this picture was handmade by a very crafty bride but I think we'll still get a great effect if we use one of these not-too-pricey Umbra Ether frames I found on Amazon - we'll stand it vertically and the sliding end will become the lid at the top.

 

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Perfect! Now it's just a matter of colour ... Nickel or Espresso?

 

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I can hear music

There's a couple of songs so far I'll be adding to a playlist for the morning of our wedding - I think it will be a great touch to have some fun tunes on when we're all prettying up and I've picked out these ones so far...

(Today I met) the boy I'm gonna marry - Darlene Love

Going to the Chapel - The Dixie Cups

Sweet Baby - Macy Gray
Super Duper Love - Joss Stone
Coin Laundry - Lisa Mitchell
Baby that Kiss - The Squeeze
Every Thought is You - Kelly Roland
Some Kind of Wonderful - Joss Stone
Heaven must be missing an angel - Tavares
You Make Me feel like dancing - Leo Sayer
This will be (an everlasting love) - Nina Cole
I just want to be your everything - Andy Gibb
Any way you want it - Journey
Feel good time - Pink

Any suggestions?